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If your newsfeed has looked anything like ours the last two days, it’s been filled with posts about this short film from Gillette, the men’s shaving brand.
As you might have guessed, we’re about to talk about “toxic masculinity.” Before you disregard this post based on your preconceived notions of what “toxic masculinity” is, or whether you do or don’t agree with the term, read on to find out how this Gilette ad relates to our movement to raise awareness on the harms of porn.
Check out the video if you haven’t yet:
The video focuses on calling-out many normalized behaviors such as cat-calling, sexual assault, harassment, bullying, shutting down women, and elevating the “boys will be boys” mentality that has thrived in society for so long.
It makes the point that “The Best A Man Can Get,” Gillette’s famous tagline, should exemplify something deeper, like the fight against passivity in allowing unhealthy and toxic ideals that have long been associated with what it means to be a “real man” in society today—even featuring Terry Crews, a huge supporter of Fight the New Drug.
The video is ultimately a call to action for men to hold other men accountable in a #MeToo world, supporting each other with love and honesty instead of complicity in the face of unhealthy and unacceptable behavior. Sounds pretty good, right?
It ends with the phrase, “The boys watching today will be the men of tomorrow.”
But what does any of this have to do with porn and the culture the adult entertainment industry has created and fuels?
Porn culture vs. toxic masculinity
Consider how the age of first exposure to porn is between 9-11 years old. In that way, the boys watching porn today will also be the men of tomorrow.
The reality is, the issues Gillette’s ad campaign calls out are popular themes in mainstream porn today. For example, the average porn consumer might not be able to tell the difference between a scenario in a porn video and a real #MeToo story.
Not to mention that rape, sexual assault, and harassment are often portrayed as taboo fantasy, rather than harmful actions that are unacceptable: “Woman in the park gets f— by a passerby,” “Girl found sleeping drunk on the street gets raped by stranger,” “Teen girl jogging in park gets overpowered by attacker and abducted in car.”
These are just a few porn titles on popular porn sites anyone can find with a simple Google search.
It can’t be denied that a vast majority of porn—violent or not—portrays men as powerful and in charge; while women are submissive and obedient.DeKeseredy, W. (2015). Critical Criminological Understandings Of Adult Pornography And Women Abuse: New Progressive Directions In Research And Theory. International Journal For Crime, Justice, And Social Democracy, 4(4) 4-21. Doi:10.5204/Ijcjsd.V4i4.184Copy Rothman, E. F., Kaczmarsky, C., Burke, N., Jansen, E., & Baughman, A. (2015). “Without Porn…I Wouldn’t Know Half The Things I Know Now”: A Qualitative Study Of Pornography Use Among A Sample Of Urban, Low-Income, Black And Hispanic Youth. Journal Of Sex Research, 52(7), 736-746. Doi:10.1080/00224499.2014.960908Copy
Watching scene after scene of dehumanizing submission makes it start to seem normal.Daneback, K., Ševčíková, A., & Ježek, S. (2018). Exposure to online sexual materials in adolescence and desensitization to sexual content. Sexologies, 27(3), e71-e76. doi:https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sexol.2018.04.001Copy Ezzell, M. B., Johnson, J. A., Bridges, A. J., & Sun, C. F. (2020). I (dis)like it like that: Gender, pornography, and liking sex. J.Sex Marital Ther., 46(5), 460-473. doi:10.1080/0092623X.2020.1758860Copy It sets the stage for lopsided power dynamics in couple relationships and the gradual acceptance of verbal and physical aggression against women.Wright, P. J., & Tokunaga, R. S. (2016). Men's Objectifying Media Consumption, Objectification of Women, and Attitudes Supportive of Violence Against Women. Archives of sexual behavior, 45(4), 955–964. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-015-0644-8Copy Seabrook, R. C., Ward, L. M., & Giaccardi, S. (2019). Less than human? media use, objectification of women, and men’s acceptance of sexual aggression. Psychology of Violence, 9(5), 536-545. doi:10.1037/vio0000198Copy
Ultimately, porn continually sells the idea that men need to be dominant and aggressive in intimate settings, and take advantage of vulnerable women whenever possible. This promotes a twisted, toxic version of masculinity in which only real men are unwaveringly tough, aggressive, and dominant.
This is the toxic version of masculinity that Gillette is ultimately speaking out against with this campaign. And this toxic version of masculinity is what we’re calling out in today’s porn.
Fighting toxic masculinity means fighting porn
We’re speaking out because if we as a society want to fight against toxic and twisted masculine stereotypes, we need to expose the industries that ultimately fuel and foster this culture.
If we want to watch the next generation grow up, unencumbered by the baggage of unacceptable stereotypes that silences abuse survivors and accepts harassment and abuse as a part of life, we need to wake up to how porn holds back today’s boys from becoming the best versions of tomorrow’s men.
If you’re fired up about the Gillette campaign and fighting for men to hold other men accountable, we invite you to get involved with our global movement for love.
Because, in the end, men deserve better than to be continually fed toxic stereotypes, and men deserve much better than porn. Will you join us?
Your Support Matters Now More Than Ever
Most kids today are exposed to porn by the age of 12. By the time they’re teenagers, 75% of boys and 70% of girls have already viewed itRobb, M.B., & Mann, S. (2023). Teens and pornography. San Francisco, CA: Common Sense.Copy —often before they’ve had a single healthy conversation about it.
Even more concerning: over half of boys and nearly 40% of girls believe porn is a realistic depiction of sexMartellozzo, E., Monaghan, A., Adler, J. R., Davidson, J., Leyva, R., & Horvath, M. A. H. (2016). “I wasn’t sure it was normal to watch it”: A quantitative and qualitative examination of the impact of online pornography on the values, attitudes, beliefs and behaviours of children and young people. Middlesex University, NSPCC, & Office of the Children’s Commissioner.Copy . And among teens who have seen porn, more than 79% of teens use it to learn how to have sexRobb, M.B., & Mann, S. (2023). Teens and pornography. San Francisco, CA: Common Sense.Copy . That means millions of young people are getting sex ed from violent, degrading content, which becomes their baseline understanding of intimacy. Out of the most popular porn, 33%-88% of videos contain physical aggression and nonconsensual violence-related themesFritz, N., Malic, V., Paul, B., & Zhou, Y. (2020). A descriptive analysis of the types, targets, and relative frequency of aggression in mainstream pornography. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 49(8), 3041-3053. doi:10.1007/s10508-020-01773-0Copy Bridges et al., 2010, “Aggression and Sexual Behavior in Best-Selling Pornography Videos: A Content Analysis,” Violence Against Women.Copy .
From increasing rates of loneliness, depression, and self-doubt, to distorted views of sex, reduced relationship satisfaction, and riskier sexual behavior among teens, porn is impacting individuals, relationships, and society worldwideFight the New Drug. (2024, May). Get the Facts (Series of web articles). Fight the New Drug.Copy .
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