Since 2009, we've given visibility to research and personal accounts demonstrating how pornography can negatively impact individuals, relationships, and society. Through this grassroots movement, millions of people have found hope and freedom. We couldn't do this without Fighters like you!
I finally told my parents about my porn addiction last night. It had made me depressed and antisocial because I felt like nobody could love me. I thought my parents were going to be disappointed or angry with me, but they were actually really proud of me for coming to them. They didn’t make me feel bad about myself, and were completely loving and understanding. Now we do a weekly phone audit, so they look through my phone and I look through their phones with complete trust. I’m so happy now that I’ve told someone. It was completely consuming me, but it was like a virus that wouldn’t stop. In the end, I couldn’t forgive myself until I told someone and accepted that I had a problem. Thank you for being a source that people like me can come to and feel loved.
Thank you for showing the humanity in people in the porn industry. When I was a teen, I was caught up in the industry by an older man I thought I could trust. I wish more people knew that for so many girls they see online, consent isn’t an option. I was told if I didn’t do something, or revoked my consent, I’d owe THEM money or they’d do something to hurt me. Imagine if a date told you that you’d owe them money if you didn’t sleep with them. But the industry got a free pass for that. That’s the tip of the iceberg, but the fear and myriad of coercion tactics they use are real… while so many young girls/boys are being exploited.
I’m thankful that there are people speaking up about the porn industry. It’s not regulated or supervised, so I’m hesitant to even call it an industry. I fight every day to move on, so when I see people also fighting against this, it really warms my heart.
I just wanted to share a cool experience I had today! I’ve been wearing my PKL shirt for years and hoping that it’s helping spread the message, but I’ve had very few if any conversations about it. Today I had a new friend ask me about it and we had a good long conversation where I was able to share my viewpoint and cite some of the research you share! He committed to look into it more and he knows I’m going to ask him what he thought when I see him next week!
Thank you so very much for your podcast and the way you and your guests talk so frankly about their journeys with pornography. My husband has been living porn-free for the past year but struggled to get free for eight months before that. I spoke about our journey at a community event recently and used much of the information that I learned from FTND and from listening to your podcast. I know that pornography is hurting so many families. I really appreciate what you all are doing to help people know the truth. It is helping me to heal from the betrayal trauma. I know it is helping many who have been hurt in a variety of ways.
I am a recovering porn and sex addict and I just want you all to know that you are doing great work. My choices in looking at pornography have hurt the most important person in my life so much. I feel like a monster and now all I can do is to try to help contribute to fighting against this awful culture and industry. I have been listening to your podcasts and it truly disgusts me that I was contributing to so much exploitation and abuse in the industry. No one should ever have to go through those things and I truly will always consider before consuming now. Thank you.
Today marks 6 months of freedom from an addiction I had for about 9 years . . . 6 whole months. I didn’t think that would be possible! But I chose to fight, to keep fighting, and still choose to fight (even though it’s tough), and I’ve almost felt the rewiring in my brain!
This freedom has allowed me to love my friends so much more than I ever could before because my heart hasn’t been split between a screen and my friends. I think I’m happier, more content, and better at loving than I was in my early 20’s! Happy happy days.
I’m a long-time user of pornography and I know firsthand how destructive its effects are in one’s personal life. I’m deeply changed since abstaining and I would like to do my part to bring awareness to those who are addicted and prevention to young children/adults before they are exposed to it. Thank you for the work that you do! #FTND
