Cover photo from Rachel Murray/Getty Images for MAKERS, retrieved from CheatSheet.com.
You may know her as Tahani from NBC’s smash hit show, “The Good Place,” but Jameela Jamil is becoming known for her body positivity advocacy, and now, for dropping the facts on how porn is anything but casual entertainment.
At a 2019 conference put on by MAKERS, a female-empowerment media brand, Jameela put the porn industry on blast in her impassioned speech about how raisers of young men can equip them to partner with and deeply respect women in our world.
Here’s just one of her fire quotes from the speech, you can click here to watch the whole thing:
“Tell him about sex. Not just reproduction, but sex. The fun, pleasurable part of it. The joy of equal pleasure and enthusiastic consent. Do not shy away from this. Do not make it an awkward topic in your house. Because if you push him into the shadows, he will find Pornhub in there and that will become his teacher. And nobody needs that b—s—. I believe that learning sex from porn is like learning how to drive from watching ‘The Fast and Furious,’ a f— terrible idea.”
Because of the decades of research and personal stories showcasing how porn does exactly this, we agree and applaud Jameela for speaking out.
(Warning: the clip below has some strong language.)
The rest of this speech about how we topple the toxic patriarchy together and finally become a team with men Is available here… https://t.co/7qnQikNrkc pic.twitter.com/zEACRlfHvG
— Jameela Jamil 🌈 (@jameelajamil) February 9, 2019
And with reports from last year about the “Great American Sex Drought,” especially in young males aged 18-30, she hasn’t been afraid to offer a hot take:
I blame the internet for this. 🤷🏽♀️ https://t.co/oiZpaVrhQb
— Jameela Jamil 🌈 (@jameelajamil) March 30, 2019
Any guesses as to what part of the internet she might be referencing? Considering what the research says about lowered sexual satisfaction and sex drive, it’s probably porn.
Porn is not quality education about sex
Whether you like it or not, a lot of people look to the causes that celebrities speak up on for inspiration on what they themselves should contribute to. And when stars use their public platforms to give visibility to this important issue, it makes that much more of a difference.
In many of the public statements Jameela has given on the topic of porn, she’s often talked about how porn is teaching consumers—specifically male ones—toxic themes that ultimately belittle women’s worth and value and emphasize incorrect or harmful information about sex.
She’s right on target with what the research is saying, too. A recent study of adolescent porn use concluded that the major messages presented by porn are male domination, hypermasculinity, and making male sexual pleasure the top priority.
But wait, there’s more.
In another recent study, researchers viewed and coded the 50 most-viewed videos of all time on Pornhub, watching for pleasure-inducing acts and clear indicators of enjoyment from performers. Their findings? In these top videos, 78% of men were shown having an orgasm, compared to just 18.3% of women. What does that tell us?
The main researcher’s conclusion was that “representations of male and female orgasm in mainstream pornography may serve to perpetuate unrealistic beliefs and expectations in relation to female orgasm and male sexual performance,” and that “the male orgasm is paramount.” Surprised?
And think about this, too—what messages does this kind of content send to young women and girls? It says that their enjoyment of sex with a committed and consenting partner isn’t important, and that they should accept being controlled and dominated. This is one of the many, many reasons why porn is toxic for both men and women.
Clearly, porn is not a quality tool to learn about mutually satisfying sex, even though 60% of students say they watch it for that exact reason. So if it’s not teaching consumers how to be good, respectful partners who are mutually interested in pleasing the other, what is it really teaching?
Well, there are quite a few research studies about that, too. And, spoiler alert, porn is basically the most toxic teacher around, including the lessons it has about body image and self-esteem—both issues that Jameela is known for speaking out about.
And what about body image and self-esteem?
A recent study revealed that women whose male partners watch pornography on a regular basis are more likely to report symptoms of an eating disorder. Published in the International Journal of Eating Disorders, the research also identified strong links between women whose partners watch porn and feelings of guilt about eating and preoccupations with body fat.
Related: How My Porn Obsession Fueled My Self-Harming And Made Me Hate My Body
In another recent study done on both straight and gay men, viewing pornography was correlated with higher levels of body dissatisfaction. Pornography exposure was correlated with social physique anxiety for gay men and a higher tendency of developing an eating disorder.
And in yet another study, researchers found that men’s frequent porn habits were linked with body dysmorphic ideas, internal body shame and negative self-view, and toxic ideas about romantic relationships.
These studies and so many more are why we get so excited when we see celebrities speaking out about porn’s harms. Keep speaking out about porn, Jameela—we’re with you.
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Most kids today are exposed to porn by the age of 12. By the time they’re teenagers, 75% of boys and 70% of girls have already viewed itRobb, M.B., & Mann, S. (2023). Teens and pornography. San Francisco, CA: Common Sense.Copy —often before they’ve had a single healthy conversation about it.
Even more concerning: over half of boys and nearly 40% of girls believe porn is a realistic depiction of sexMartellozzo, E., Monaghan, A., Adler, J. R., Davidson, J., Leyva, R., & Horvath, M. A. H. (2016). “I wasn’t sure it was normal to watch it”: A quantitative and qualitative examination of the impact of online pornography on the values, attitudes, beliefs and behaviours of children and young people. Middlesex University, NSPCC, & Office of the Children’s Commissioner.Copy . And among teens who have seen porn, more than 79% of teens use it to learn how to have sexRobb, M.B., & Mann, S. (2023). Teens and pornography. San Francisco, CA: Common Sense.Copy . That means millions of young people are getting sex ed from violent, degrading content, which becomes their baseline understanding of intimacy. Out of the most popular porn, 33%-88% of videos contain physical aggression and nonconsensual violence-related themesFritz, N., Malic, V., Paul, B., & Zhou, Y. (2020). A descriptive analysis of the types, targets, and relative frequency of aggression in mainstream pornography. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 49(8), 3041-3053. doi:10.1007/s10508-020-01773-0Copy Bridges et al., 2010, “Aggression and Sexual Behavior in Best-Selling Pornography Videos: A Content Analysis,” Violence Against Women.Copy .
From increasing rates of loneliness, depression, and self-doubt, to distorted views of sex, reduced relationship satisfaction, and riskier sexual behavior among teens, porn is impacting individuals, relationships, and society worldwideFight the New Drug. (2024, May). Get the Facts (Series of web articles). Fight the New Drug.Copy .
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