Cover photo by Cedar Sioux Photography.
The 2018 Fighter of the Year winners came as a package deal, not only because they’re twins, but also because they’ve been mutually dedicated alongside each other to spreading the facts in their part of the world on porn’s harms and the value of real love.
Meet Carmel and Lynae, two U.S. Fighters from the state of Wisconsin.
The beginning of their involvement
Their journey of getting involved with Fight the New Drug began around 2015, when they saw a Facebook post from a friend in a red “Porn Kills Love” tee. What started as a mutual interest in our posts on the social network grew into an active following of our blog and other social platforms for both Lynae and Carmel. Then, the conversations started—with their friends, parents, siblings, peers at school, and mentors. Anywhere they could talk about the issue, they did.
During that time, a speaker came to their high school and gave a talk about the harms of porn in a presentation they say marked them from that point on.
“For the first time ever, kids in my school were opening up about experiences and struggles with porn. Some kids didn’t see a problem with it. But I did. Porn was hurting almost all of my friends, and I wasn’t okay with it. I remembered FTND,” Carmel said of her growing involvement with the movement in an email interview with us.
And all along, her sister had been growing more invested in the issue also.
“Since I have heard of FTND, my passion for raising awareness has grown,” Lynae said. “I have heard so many testimonies from my peers, I have seen a significant amount of more people be brave and vulnerable to share their stories for the first time. My first year out of high school, I attended an FTND presentation, and absolutely loved it.”
They decided they wanted to dive in even deeper, so they both grabbed their own bold, red “Porn Kills Love” tees. That’s when things really took off.
“In my first year of college,” Lynae said, “I gave a speech in one of my classes about the harmful effects of pornography and the feedback I received was amazing!”
The movement’s big break in their community
And not long ago, they made huge waves in the Wisconsin community of La Crosse after a local university paid thousands of dollars to a porn performer to give a talk to students about sex education and porn, intended to help the campus celebrate their Free Speech Week.
In response, Lynae and Carmel posted on Facebook wearing their “Porn Kills Love” tees with fellow Fighter friends and talked about how porn harms the consumer, relationships, and society in general. The attention the post received and the wider conversations it sparked were unexpected, but amazing.
“It got a lot of publicity over the weekend [after the talk]. Monday morning, we got the glorious news that the university’s chancellor is having FTND come to the University of Wisconsin-La Crosse because of all the social media attention,” Carmel said. “We want what’s best for our community and we want everyone to know the truth behind pornography.”
The news also got out that the university’s chancellor was personally reimbursing the school the thousands it paid to the performer.
Listen to our interview with Lynae and Carmel on Consider Before Consuming, a podcast by Fight the New Drug.
We would be nowhere without Fighters like Lynae and Carmel
Thanks in part to these incredible Fighters, the national attention of a porn performer being paid to speak to university students is being punctuated by our upcoming presentation on campus. Without these Fighters speaking out, who knows how the story would have ended?
Your Support Matters Now More Than Ever
Most kids today are exposed to porn by the age of 12. By the time they’re teenagers, 75% of boys and 70% of girls have already viewed itRobb, M.B., & Mann, S. (2023). Teens and pornography. San Francisco, CA: Common Sense.Copy —often before they’ve had a single healthy conversation about it.
Even more concerning: over half of boys and nearly 40% of girls believe porn is a realistic depiction of sexMartellozzo, E., Monaghan, A., Adler, J. R., Davidson, J., Leyva, R., & Horvath, M. A. H. (2016). “I wasn’t sure it was normal to watch it”: A quantitative and qualitative examination of the impact of online pornography on the values, attitudes, beliefs and behaviours of children and young people. Middlesex University, NSPCC, & Office of the Children’s Commissioner.Copy . And among teens who have seen porn, more than 79% of teens use it to learn how to have sexRobb, M.B., & Mann, S. (2023). Teens and pornography. San Francisco, CA: Common Sense.Copy . That means millions of young people are getting sex ed from violent, degrading content, which becomes their baseline understanding of intimacy. Out of the most popular porn, 33%-88% of videos contain physical aggression and nonconsensual violence-related themesFritz, N., Malic, V., Paul, B., & Zhou, Y. (2020). A descriptive analysis of the types, targets, and relative frequency of aggression in mainstream pornography. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 49(8), 3041-3053. doi:10.1007/s10508-020-01773-0Copy Bridges et al., 2010, “Aggression and Sexual Behavior in Best-Selling Pornography Videos: A Content Analysis,” Violence Against Women.Copy .
From increasing rates of loneliness, depression, and self-doubt, to distorted views of sex, reduced relationship satisfaction, and riskier sexual behavior among teens, porn is impacting individuals, relationships, and society worldwideFight the New Drug. (2024, May). Get the Facts (Series of web articles). Fight the New Drug.Copy .
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