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If you have questions about porn, asking your parents is a great place to start. Maybe someone showed you porn or you stumbled upon it on the internet, and you’re trying to make sense of what you saw or how you felt about it. Maybe you’re feeling pressured by your friends to consume porn. Maybe you have questions about porn in general. Or maybe you just saw a presentation about the harms of porn at school and want to talk with your parents about creating a plan to keep porn out of your lives for good. No matter your reason for wanting to have this conversation, you’re in the right place. We can’t tell you exactly how your parents will react, but we hope this information helps you start a healthy and productive conversation about porn.

If your discussion with your parent or parents leads to a different conversation in the future, we can help with that too.

I want to talk about my struggle with porn.

Conversation Tips

Start the conversation.

Before we get too far, give yourself a high five for being willing to have this conversation in the first place. Research shows just how harmful porn can be, so this shows that you’re taking the right steps to keep porn out of your life. We’ll help guide you through this conversation as much as we can, and we’ll help you figure out exactly how to start the conversation later on, so stay tuned!

Educate yourself.

Together with your parents and/or other family members, educate yourselves on the research, which shows just how porn can negatively impact individuals relationships and society. There’s a lot of research out there, and it can sometimes seem overwhelming, but talking about it with your parents can sometimes be the best way to make sense of it. If you’re making a family plan, keep these facts in mind while utilizing other resources available to you.

Have a plan.

In today’s digital age, sometimes porn can invade your life even if you aren’t seeking it out. Using filtration software can be helpful to keep you protected on the internet, but keep in mind that filters alone likely won’t address everything, so having a plan regardless can be a good idea. Work together with your parent or parents to make a plan that will keep you from worrying about stumbling upon porn online. Establish helpful boundaries and set goals, as needed.

Recognize the need.

It may feel awkward to talk to your parents about this, but it’s an important conversation to have. It’s estimated that 94% of kids have seen pornography by age 14, so talking about it openly can help break the stigma. There can be a lot of pressure for young people today to normalize porn, but as Fighters, we know it’s cool to be anti-porn and pro-healthy relationships. Know that there are always resources you can share with your parent or parents.

Don't tear yourself down.

Talking to your parents about times you maybe have been exposed to porn is a great step to take in understanding the issue. Instead of beating yourself up, get back up again, and keep fighting for love! Try to focus your energy on positive change. We’re right there with you! And if you feel it would be helpful for you, check out Fortify! Fortify is a free, online, video-based recovery resource that helps break the cycle of going back to porn. It’s helped lots of Fighters like you, so be sure to check it out!

Success Stories

They supported me like I know so many parents out there wouldn’t have. They made sure I knew they weren’t angry with me, they told me the extreme dangers of pornography, and that they would be there to help me at any time no matter what.

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I finally told my parents about my pornography addiction last night... I thought my parents were going to be disappointed or angry with me, but they were actually really proud of me for coming to them with this... I couldn’t forgive myself until I told someone and accepted that I had a problem.

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