Impact

I honestly can’t thank you enough for taking the time to send me a personal message with so much guidance and encouragement. I feel better about moving forward knowing I’m not alone and I have these resources. I’m glad you mention shame so many times. Even when you love someone, it’s honestly really hard to accidentally bring shame into the conversation because you feel so hurt. Thank you for reminding me it’s not personal because it truly feels like you’ve been cheated on and it’s really tough to separate yourself from the situation. I’m going to look into these resources and try to make progress. You are making a big difference in our world, thank you.

I finally told my parents about my porn addiction last night. It had made me depressed and antisocial because I felt like nobody could love me. I thought my parents were going to be disappointed or angry with me, but they were actually really proud of me for coming to them. They didn’t make me feel bad about myself, and were completely loving and understanding. Now we do a weekly phone audit, so they look through my phone and I look through their phones with complete trust. I’m so happy now that I’ve told someone. It was completely consuming me, but it was like a virus that wouldn’t stop. In the end, I couldn’t forgive myself until I told someone and accepted that I had a problem. Thank you for being a source that people like me can come to and feel loved.

I wrote you in February in the thick of my hurt after my husband came clean about a porn addiction he’s had for seven of the ten years we’ve been together. I was completely shattered and devastated to my core. I’m writing to you today to say how much our lives have changed in the last couple of months. I completely gave up my role of trying to fix him, and I just loved him through it. I saw him for him and not for the porn problem, and now things couldn’t be better between us. He’s sought out accountability weekly, and he’s excited about the future. I don’t feel like I could know my husband better than I do right now. Our communication is raw and honest, but packed with love and fight. I’m falling for him all over again. So thank you for what you do. Thank you for loving us all through this–you are making a difference.